I love that you compared it to a modern M3 as my Challenger R/T handles extremely similar to my M3 Competition. A Challenger can be about as capable, but the M3 at the same capability level will be more comfortable. Not drastically though as far as ride goes.
Everything you mentioned is great. The Challenger chassis is a lot more capable than most people think. Springs will make the biggest difference because they address ride height, stiffness and they will help a car that doesn't quite have enough negative camber to really throw down in the twisties.
Here is my set up. This is just what I prefer.
1) d2 racing lowering springs. They are pretty aggressive drop but I love everything about them. They stiffened things up, body roll was minimal with those alone to the point where I questioned if bigger swaybars were necessary.
2) strut braces, not a huge deal which ones.
3) bilsteins, mine had them, you should already have them as well. There are 3 variants available. Stock scat pack/super track pack are one. Aftermarket bilstein b6 are the same shock but different valving. Finally wesley motorsports has their version with their valving. The Wesley's are the best.
4) swaybars are where it gets confusing. Talking to Kevin Wesley (road racer who races a Scat/Hellcat) he recommends going with a stiffer spring up front and a softer spring in the rear. Since I had already made my spring selection and was happy, I went with a stiffer bar up front and left the stock rear bar in. The traction on throttle is greatly improved and the heavy front is well controlled. I also went with adjustable end links.
5) alignment settings. Camber was almost exactly where I wanted it once it was dropped so I didn't have to go with adjustable arms. I'm running -2.5 front, -3 rear and it is amazing. Slight toe out at front improves turn in a lot. A VERY slight toe in at the back helps control the power. My tire wear at 18k miles on my ps4s street tires is 1/32 off from the inside of the tire to the outside which is amazing for settings most would consider extreme.
6) bushings. Whiteline subframe bushings are huge. Running bmr trailing arms as well. I'm running the whiteline rear trailing arm bushing (bushing in the rear knuckle) as well, a lot of people aren't so I don't think that one is as huge as the trailing arms themselves/subframe bushings.
Mine is a 5.7 (has srt knuckles because I'm running hellcat brakes) and it's a wild ride on a road course or in the twisties. The M3 is a great goal to shoot for, my car is pretty basically modded (if you leave the stock shocks, everything I've done was well under the 2k mark) but done in a way I feel is smart. It's faster through the turns than most of the Miatas and on a 1.5 mile short road course is about 2 seconds faster per lap than the Charger Hellcat because the speed it can carry through the turns.
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